Here’s the scenario: You’ve been approached with a so called “investment opportunity of a lifetime”. Initially, you are very excited about the potential! You envision yourself reaping the monetary and social benefits of your investment. Your vision includes: a new set of wheels, a sassy-chic wardrobe upgrade, a four bedroom--3 bathroom--finished basement having townhouse, a bank account at least four times the size of your current and just about dehydrated account, weekend getaways with your besties, and more.
So you go for it; you invest a significant portion of your hard earned money. And it was far from easy letting go of your six months worth of rent. But you had a really good feeling about your “investment opportunity of a lifetime” so you threw caution to the wind and put yourself out there—financially. A month passes by and you’re approached again—and not with the good news you were expecting (your investment has doubled in that short period of time) but with “you need to add some more cash to your original investment”. Being that you’re already "invested” you convince yourself to come up off another few thousand dollars. A few months pass by and you’re approached again—and not with the good news you were expecting either. You have not seen or reaped the benefits of your investment. Your faith is dwindling. It’s looking bleak! But yet in still you’re being asked to give MORE!
At this time, you most likely draw the line in the sand and say a variety of things; some of which may sound like this: “hell no”, “I don’t have thousands and thousands of dollars to just keep giving away only to get absolutely nothing in return”, “I work too hard for my money to just give it away”, “you fooled me once; you fooled me twice; but ain’t no way in hell you’re gonna keep playing me for the fool”, “I’m done”. And you mean it! You don’t give another red cent when that fool comes back around asking. On top of that, you’re ready to beat him to a pulp for taking and mishandling your funds and for disrespecting you by approaching you with some nonsense offer in the first place.
Sometimes…………. are relationships are just like bad investments. We invest our time, we invest our love, we invest our loyalty, we invest our money, we just about invest our EVERYTHING waiting and waiting and still waiting for our return--love reciprocated, generosity, honesty, respect, commitment. We continue to invest only to receive heartache, headache, confusion, stress, pain, sleepless nights, irritation, and aggravation in return which ultimately leads to emotional bankruptcy.
Why are we so giving and so willing to sacrifice our own sanity, joy, health, and more? Why don’t we pull out sooner when we can clearly see that our relationships are not nearly as promising as we desperately hoped they’d be? I wonder what it would look like if we started to treat our emotions with the same dignity and respect that we treat our money with?
Beautiful women………………………………….finding their way back!
