Are You Valid............Yet???

You’re beautiful—so beautiful that foundation, gloss, shadow, and mascara are honored to grace your face and to just be in your mere presence. You’ve managed to delay the signs of aging by keeping yourself fit and healthy. You’re graceful, loving, caring, unique, sassy, intelligent, and so many more wonderful things! Your family adores you and swears that you are the hottest ticket in town! They brag about you tirelessly to family friends, coworkers, neighbors, and to just about anyone who has met the misfortune of being FORCED to listen to your cheerleaders rant and rave about your greatness! Your friends admire you—your strength, your sense of humor, your fashion sense, your loyalty, your dedication, and your ability to make it happen. Your coworkers secretly envy your professional swagger, how gutsy you are, and your “go getter” mentality.

You’re a “hot girl” a “dime plus ninety-nine” a “five star chick” in the eyes and minds of just about everyone around you! There’s just one problem! YOU don’t see it that way. YOU fail to see the beauty that is ALL you. And why is that?? I’ll tell you why...... because some gentleman has yet to cosign on YOUR validation ticket. And as a result, YOU’VE deemed yourself not valid; not worthy; less than. And you are not alone. So many of us—beautiful, intelligent, perfect package women—-have fallen into the trap. The trap of not appreciating ourselves nearly enough; the trap of feeling like we are less than because we’re not “bunned” up; the trap of feeling like we can’t be our best selves; our most beautiful selves unless someone agrees to be involved with or marries us. Chile please (preceded by teeth sucking)! If you’re truly a “hot girl” (which you are) then you’re going to be a “hot girl’ REGARDLESS of who John Hancock’s (cosigns) your validation ticket or not! Your mere existence is more than validation that you are “THAT GIRL”.

So with all that said……enjoy this season! Enjoy your time! Enjoy being you—beyond validated you!