In recent conversations with friends, the age old term "gold digger" presented itself. We were discussing the ladies of the TV reality show, Basketball Wives. A male friend--a very vocal and opinionated friend at that--said, in a passionate as well as disgusted manner, that "all those chicks are some gold diggers". Two other female friends cosigned for him on this standpoint. I, however, couldn't agree nor disagree. Are these women really "gold diggers"or just women who have preferences and who know what they want? Now I have to pose the question: Does wanting to be with someone who can provide for you in a manner that you prefer make a woman a "gold digger"? I recall my father telling me on numerous ocassions, "you have to pick a man with a job; a man who can provide for his family; you don't need a hobo". I personally would like to be involved with a man who has a nice sized bank account, who can wine and dine me, who will generously share funds when mine are low, who can take me on all expenses paid trips (as opposed to I pay my half and he pays his half), who, if I decide to throw up the deuces at my job and be a stay at home chick, can afford that. These are my PREFERENCES (not deal breakers--I understand times are tough now economically for many but PREFERENCES). So......now I'm wondering, based on the definitions provided for what a "gold digger" is (someone who digs for gold; someone who is only with somebody for what they have or what they can do for them, etc.) would I be considered a gold digger on some level? Could we all be considered "gold diggers" on some level? Are we all not with people for what they can do to enhance our lives emotionally, spiritually, and FINANCIALLY? Let's be honest here. Don't or wouldn't we all enjoy the perks of not having to hustle and bustle to rob Paul in order to pay John?
I'd love to hear from you all--your definition of a "gold digger" and your standpoint on the issue. Happy Blogging!
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