The Best Thing I Never Had

As I listen to King B's (that would be Beyonce) song The Best Thing I Never Had,I can't help but feel a sincere appreciation for the "sassy", "pick yourself up; dust yourself off", "one clown doesn't stop the show", "I love me more" post break up anthem of the summer! How many of us can make claims to owning the sentiments that the song's feisty one and two liners induce? Lines like "It sucks to be you right now”. Don't we all, at least temporarily, want life without us to suck for those who didn't "keep it one hundred" with us? And while we are secretly wishing a sucky life for those who shall remain nameless, we have to be mindful that most of our energy MUST be devoted into making sure life doesn’t suck for us post break up. Don’t forget to: live, laugh, travel, get together with friends and family, try new things, make your own fun, and most importantly maintain your “hot girl” status.

Then there’s, "I use to want you so bad; I'm so through with that". Haven't we all wanted some person or another so badly, that in our silliness, we thought life couldn't go on without them? Only to learn that life most certainly goes on without them--and not only will life go on but if we allow it to it will proceed in a more peaceful and joyful manner than we ever thought possible. The key is allowing life to do so (keeping what's worth keeping and blowing the rest away with a breath of kindness).

My most favorite line in B's sassy new tune is "thank God I found the good in goodbye". Although goodbyes can be tear jerking and stomach turning, we have to force ourselves to see the good in throwing up voluntary and at times involuntary deuces. The goods in goodbye may include but are not limited to: peace of mind, growth, gained experience, renewed confidence in oneself, learning that you’re stronger than you thought you were, increased opportunity to meet another gent who is more your speed, decreased hours filled with tears, stress, confusion, and over analyzing "don't make a bit of sense" behavior, and increased attention to devote to the more joyful things in life! With all that said…………………time to celebrate being the best thing he’ll never have!