Basketball happens to be my most favorite sport of all time! I fell in love with the sport shortly after being introduced to it during my high school years. I was a proud ‘Lady Charger’ my entire high school career. In my fantasy, I’d liken myself to D. Wade; in reality……….my skills were (and probably still are) more like the player who comes into the game when his/her team is up by 20 points with approximately 10 seconds left on the game clock. Nonetheless, this sport will always have my heart. And this is probably why I find myself comparing love/relationships to my beloved Basketball.
In the game of Love (and yes Love is absolutely a game; filled with rules, effective plays, ineffective plays, mentor players, fouls, techs, scores, bs calls, fast breaks, weak defense, heartbreak/defeat, victories, over time, clutch shooting, upsets, and more) sometimes we win; sometimes we lose; sometimes we’re traded for a better fit. When we win at Love, it feels great! We give our all; we devote time and dedication; we keep the lines of communication working smoothly with our teammate and more. And as a result, we walk away with the championship trophy and the championship ring—a healthy and happy relationship.
When we lose at Love it sucks (at first)! You give it all you have. You regroup, rearrange, and revise for more effective communication and compromising strategies in an effort to secure more wins. You don’t give up; you are so dedicated to your team; you fight so hard—with your patience, love, and sacrifices—to secure the win. But time is of the essence. And there’s the buzzer, indicating that the game is over and you’ve just loss (communication break down, infidelity, feeling underappreciated, break up. divorce). You’re hurt, disappointed, angry, and even a little (naw…… A LOT) bitter……..because in your opinion, there was absolutely nothing more you could have possibly given or possibly done to change the outcome. The only thing left to do now is wash that funky jersey, use the lessons of this failed season as tools, and start prepping for a more successful season in the future.
Being traded kinda sucks too; but ironically it always works out for the best. You were on a team with a quality player. You were a quality player. But for some odd reason…..your team lacked a cohesiveness needed to make it far in the game. And as a result, you both had to go in different directions. It takes a moment to gel with your new squad but in the end it works out in your favor (think of Miami Heat earlier this season). You’re doing well now; plus there aren’t any ill feelings for your former teammate who happens to be performing much better with his new squad as well.
Love has the same redeeming quality as Basketball. There’s always another game to play; another season to look forward to; another opportunity to try, try, and try again for more successful results. So don’t hang your jerseys up just yet. Keep doing what’s needed—whether that be maintaining, rearranging, team changing, etc. Keep chasing that ring; that championship ring—a happy and healthy relationship.
Beautiful women………………………………….finding their way back!
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